Senin, 29 Agustus 2011

Opposites Attract


What is it about you, anyhow? 
The way you groove to jazz -   
The way you move life around  on the dance floor in a cocky, sardonic way -
The way you temper vulnerability with a sneer












Your house is immaculate, Your schedule precise.
Is there room for me in either? Are you sure?

In the long run, Will our glaring differences Stare us down?











Can I love someone Who shrugs off recycling?
Can you love someone Who doesn't cuss?

Poetry  by Karen Williams




The Heart and Soul of Bushido

The great Sioux chief, Sitting Bull, once stated that, “Warriors are not
what you think of as warriors. The warrior is not someone who fights…” At
first this statement seems strange and contrary to what most people think
when they hear the term “warrior.” How is it that the warrior is not someone
who fights? Could it be that Sitting Bull didn’t really know what he was
talking about? Was he really “qualified” to explain what being a real warrior
means? Oh, wait, wasn’t he one of the warriors who defeated General Custer
in the Battle of the Little Big Horn, known to the Sioux people as the Fight at
Greasy Grass Creek?
Sitting Bull was one of the great warriors in one of the most well known
battles fought on American soil; he must know something about warriorship.
He was definitely not opposed to fighting for what he believed to be right,
especially when left with no honorable alternatives. He was obviously a brave
man who had the courage to meet his enemy face to face on the battlefield, as
opposed to being a man who claimed that there is “never any reason for violence,”
or that “violence never solved anything.” So what did this great warrior
mean when he stated that, “Warriors are not what you think of as warriors.
The warrior is not someone who fights…?”
Basically, what Sitting Bull is saying is that fighting is not the only component
or even the most important part of being a warrior. He goes on to
explain himself saying, “The warrior, for us, is one who sacrifices himself for
the good of others. His task is to take care of the elderly, the defenseless, those
who cannot provide for themselves, and above all, the children, the future of
humanity.” This is what he was doing at the Battle of the Little Big Horn,
fighting for those who needed his protection, and this is also a very good
description of the true warrior and the warrior lifestyle.
The warrior lifestyle involves much more than the ability to fight and
defend yourself and those you love. It involves developing your character,
living a life of honor and integrity, defending those who can’t defend themselves,
taking care of the elderly and your family; in short, it involves service
to others along with perfecting your character. Many people seem to get hung
up on the literal definition of the term “warrior.” The literal definition, which
can be found in most dictionaries, defines the term “warrior” as someone
who is trained or experienced in warfare.
As far as the warrior lifestyle is concerned, this definition falls far short of
being complete. Throughout history, when the term “warrior” has been used,
it has carried with it a deeper meaning than simply “someone experienced in
warfare.” Warriors have been revered for their character as much as their
martial arts skills. The warrior was seen as a man of character, integrity and
honor, not simply someone who knew how to fight, or who was experienced
in fighting. It is true that the warrior should be skilled in the art of war or in
the martial arts, but this is only a small part of being a true warrior.
Gichin Funakoshi stated that the ultimate goal of karate is the perfection
of human character, not the perfection of one’s martial arts skills; this is basically
the same thing that Sitting Bull was trying to teach us. Being a true
warrior involves balance. The warrior strives for excellence in every part of
his life, not only in developing his martial arts skills, but also in his everyday
life. The warrior has to endeavor to perfect himself spiritually and mentally,
as well as physically. While it is true that the martial arts play an important
part in the life of the true warrior, the martial arts are only a part of the
warrior’s life.
There are many other parts of the warrior’s life which must also be addressed
if he is serious about living the warrior lifestyle. Character training is
definitely an important part of being a warrior. Without character training,
so-called “warriors” are nothing more than thugs, trained to fight, but with
no knowledge of what is worth fighting for. To educate someone in the martial
arts without regard to their character, is simply training a menace to society.
The ancient martial arts masters knew this and refused to train those who
they felt lacked the character and integrity needed to be given these dangerous
skills.
Character was important to the masters of old and was taken into account
before someone was trained. Today, the martial arts have become big business
and anyone with enough money can obtain as much training as they
want, no matter how poor their character may be. Are these people warriors
simply because they have purchased years of training and know how to fight?
Are gang members who know how to fight warriors? Well, if you go by the
literal definition, your answer would have to be yes, but if you go by the
definition that I use for the true warrior, the answer is definitely no.
My definition of a true warrior is someone who has the ability and will to
fight to protect himself, his friends, his family, and his ideals, and at the same
time, seeks the perfection of his own character through a life lived with honor,
integrity, and an unflinching dedication to what is right according to his own
code of ethics. The ability to fight is only a small part of this definition. The
true warrior has to develop more than his martial arts skills. The qualities of
the true warrior go much deeper than that.
Warriors should exhibit the best qualities among men. The true warrior
makes a firm decision to try to perfect his character and to live by a strict
code of ethics. His word is his honor. His duty stays fresh on his mind. He
lives life a little more seriously than most, but at the same time lives life to its
fullest. He sees through the veil of appearances covering most parts of this
world, but does so without looking down on those who are less perceptive.
Family and friends are important to him, and they know that they can
always count on him for protection and help in their times of need. He bases
his decisions on his code of ethics, and he instinctively knows right from
wrong, and chooses right. He knows that, at times there is a difference bexviii
tween what is right and what is legal, and what is wrong and what is illegal.
As Lao Tzu taught, “Highly evolved people have their own conscience as
pure law.”
The true warrior is able to hold his head high with honor because he knows
that he lives his life to the best of his ability, with honor and integrity. His
code is ingrained in his spirit and is a part of his being. Warriors walk alone
much of the time, as they prefer solitude to the company of lesser men. The
warrior is a man who shoots for excellence in everything he does. These are
the things which make someone a true warrior and the development of these
traits leads to the warrior lifestyle.
Warrior Wisdom: The Heart and Soul of Bushido is a journey through
the wisdom and character of the warrior lifestyle. Bushido literally means,
“the way of the warrior,” and that is what Warrior Wisdom: The Heart and
Soul of Bushido is all about – the way of the warrior. 




Minggu, 28 Agustus 2011

NATIVE AMERICAN CODE OF ETHICS


1. RISE WITH THE SUN TO PRAY, PRAY ALONE, PRAY OFTEN. THE GREAT SPIRIT WILL LISTEN IF YOU WILL ONLY SPEAK.


2. BE TOLERANT OF THOSE THAT ARE LOST ON THEIR PATHS. IGNORANCE, CONCEIT, ANGER, JEALOUSY, AND GREED STEM FROM LOST SOULS. PRAY THAT THEY WILL FIND GUIDANCE.


3. SEARCH FOR YOURSELF BY YOURSELF, DO NOT ALLOW OTHERS TO MAKE YOUR PATH FOR YOU. IT IS YOUR ROAD AND YOURS ALONE. OTHERS MAY WALK IT WITH YOU, BUT NO ONE CAN WALK IT FOR YOU.


4. TREAT THE GUEST IN YOUR HOME WITH MUCH CONSIDERATION. SERVE THEM THE BEST FOOD, GIVE THEM THE BEST BEDS, AND TREAT THEM WITH RESPECT AND HONOR.


5. DO NOT TAKE WHAT IS NOT YOURS,WHETHER FROM A PERSON, A COMMUNITY, THE WILDERNESS, OR FROM A CULTURE. IT WAS NOT EARNED NOR GIVEN. IT IS NOT YOURS.


6. RESPECT ALL THINGS THAT ARE PLACED UPON THIS EARTH, WHETHER PEOPLE, ANIMAL, OR PLANT. HONOR THE SPIRIT IN ALL THINGS.


7. HONOR OTHER PEOPLES THOUGHTS, WISHES, AND WORDS. NEVER INTERRUPT ANOTHER, MOCK OR RUDELY MIMIC THEM. ALLOW EACH PERSON THE RIGHT TO PERSONAL EXPRESSION.


8. NEVER SPEAK OF OTHERS IN A BAD WAY. THE NEGATIVE ENERGY THAT YOU PUT OUT INTO THE UNIVERSE WILL MULTIPLY WHEN IT RETURNS TO YOU. ALL PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES, AND ALL MISTAKES CAN BE FORGIVEN. BAD THOUGHTS CAUSE ILLNESS OF THE MIND, BODY, AND SPIRIT. PRACTICE OPTIMISIM.


9. NATURE IS NOT FOR US, IT IS A PART OF US. NATURE IS PART OF YOUR WORLDLY FAMILY.


10. CHILDREN ARE THE SEEDS OF OUR FUTURE. PLANT LOVE IN THEIR HEARTS AND WATER THEM WITH WISDOM AND LIFE’S LESSONS. WHEN THEY ARE GROWN, GIVE THEM SPACE TO GROW.


11. AVOID HURTING THE HEARTS OF OTHERS. THE POISON OF YOUR PAIN WILL RETURN TO YOU.


12. BE TRUTHFUL AT ALL TIMES. HONESTY IS THE TEST OF ONE’S WILL WITHIN THIS UNIVERSE.


13. KEEP YOURSELF BALANCED. YOUR MENTAL SELF, SPIRITUAL SELF, EMOTIONAL SELF, AND PHYSICAL SELF ALL NEED TO BE STRONG, PURE, AND HEALTHY. WORK OUT THE BODY TO STRENGTHEN THE MIND. GROW RICK IN SPIRIT TO CURE EMOTIONAL AILS.


14. MAKE CONSCIOUS DECISIONS AS TO WHO YOU WILL BE AND HOW YOU WILL REACT. BE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN ACTIONS.


15. RESPECT THE PRIVACY AND PERSONAL SPACE OF OTHERS. DO NOT TOUCH THE PERSONAL PROPERTY OF OTHRS, ESPECIALLY SACRED AND RELIGIOUS OBJECTS-THIS IS FORBIDDEN.


16. BE TRUE TO YOURSELF. YOU CANNOT NURTURE AND HELP OTHERS IF YOU CANNOT NURTURE AND HELP YOURSELF FIRST.


17. RESPECT OTHERS RELIGIOUS BELIEFS. DO NOT FORCE YOUR BELIEFS UPON OTHERS.


18. SHARE YOUR GOOD FORTUNE WITH OTHERS. PARTICIPATE IN CHARITY. BE WILLING TO GIVE BACK TO THE PEOPLE SO THAT THE PEOPLE WILL LIVE.






The Tao of Anger


A Zen student came to the master and complained, “Master, I have an ungovernable temper. How can I cure it?”
“You have something that is very strange,” said the master. “Let me see this thing that you have.”
“I cannot show it to you just now,” said the student.
“Then when can you show it to me?” asked the master
“It arises unexpectedly,” replied the student.
“Then it must not be your own true nature. If it were, you could show it to me at any time. It is something you are not born with. It is not you.” the master replied.




Shadows, Echoes & Ripples of Life



















~The results are only shadows and echoes of our actions~
Counsels of the Great Yu

Every action has its own consequence. Whether you call it the law of cause and effect or whether you call it karma, the end result is the same; everything that you do, say or think has a consequence connected with it. There is literally nothing that you can do, say or think which doesn’t have some kind of affect on your life.

At this point I imagine that you may be thinking to yourself something such as, “well, if I am sitting on my patio and I say something completely meaningless, it has no affect on anything at all.”


Keep Moving Forward

Are you curious? Curiosity is a skill that leaders need to have. In order to be a leader a person must be able to ask questions and develop new ways to solve problems. Sometimes we let our lives become habitual and predictable and we let curiosity fall by the wayside. If you have fallen into a rut, start asking questions. Let your curiosity work magic and allow you to see your life through a new perspective.

No matter what happens to you, just keep moving forward!

You’ll encounter obstacles, and falter and fall. Just get up and keep going. You’ll face temptations and give in. That’s OK. Just keep going. You’ll make mistakes and get discouraged. No matter … just keep going. Learn from your mistakes, and … keep going. No matter what happens, keep going.

"Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently." Henry Ford

Sabtu, 27 Agustus 2011

10 Things You Really Mean When You Say“Love At First Sight”

We sometimes say “Love at first sight”, and sometimes say the real things we wanted to say:

1. Sex on the first night!
2. Cash in your pockets. Tight!
3. You remind me of my wife!
4. My husband’s in the jail. All right!
5. Haven’t touched anyone in a while!
6. Need anyone, as my last relationship made me really fragile!
7. I wanna be controlled, as if I was your kite!
8. I love you, since you haven’t seen me in bright light!
9. Never seen a woman/man before tonight!
10. Never had a man/woman look at me before, a’ight?

`Love At First Sight, Sex at First Light?'




10 Lessons From The Navy Seals


We’ve all heard of the elite U.S. military corps known as the Navy Seals. These men are groomed for up to 30 months to be superheroes. The term “superhero” evokes images of comic book supermen with exceptional abilities who help and protect others, but Navy Seal training evolves ordinary trainees into supermen who are not fictional characters.
Many Seals have a background in athletics, but not all. Men under thirty in good physical condition can qualify. How are these average men transformed into extraordinary creatures? Here are ten important lessons every Seal must master to stay in the game. If you want personal growth, these lessons can help you achieve it.
1. Keep fit. The Seals fitness plan is based on nutrition, exercise, recovery, and consistency. Four to five small daily meals and a balanced ratio of protein, carbohydrates, and fat keeps energy levels steady. This helps Seals to perform optimally at all times. Workouts and recovery are a daily part of life. This is common sense, but consistency is key. Sticking to a plan every day goes a long way toward maintaining good health.
2. Let go of limits. The extreme training to which Seals are subjected may seem like cruel and unusual punishment. It’s designed to build physical stamina, but the primary lesson is to learn what we’re actually capable of. Although only 20-25% of Seals complete training, those who do are transformed from common men into superior mega-performers, equipped to meet and overcome the most dangerous of challenges, Like Seals, we can refuse to settle for being what we are. Instead, we can challenge ourselves to new levels. This can be as simple as doing one thing every day that we think we can’t do. Over time, this practice builds confidence and a winning mentality.
3. Lose the hysterics. Navy Seals do not act out their emotions. Their community has been called a “drama-free zone.” This doesn’t mean they don’t have feelings like the rest of us. Instead, it means they learn to keep cool under fire. Life presents us with many opportunities to practice poise and master our passions. Stress, challenges, and obstacles come to us every day. Do we train ourselves to respond in an intelligent way or do we react blindly with anger or fear?
4. Learn to be uncomfortable. Seals-in-training have to endure almost every form of discomfort, whether it’s performing at peak levels while exhausted, power-swimming in arctic waters, or deploying underwater demolitions. They learn to ignore unimaginable levels of pain only to learn that it won’t kill them. Seal instructors say that most dropouts have the physical ability to master these discomforts; it’s the pressure they can’t handle. While you may not want to challenge yourself quite so much, you can still use the principle to good effect. Choose to go without one creature comfort every day and train yourself to ignore the pain by focusing on something else. What usually happens is that we’re not as uncomfortable as we thought we’d be.
5. Build mental toughness. Seals must cast out fear and doubt with good reason. Negative thinking is a foolproof way to create failure. Make friends with chaos and accept that it’s part of life. Stop expecting predictability. Focus on the goal instead of the obstacles. A reliable indicator of Seal trainees who make it to graduation is a “never say die” attitude and a determination to succeed at any cost. When you decide to do something, keep going until you achieve it regardless of what gets in your way and no matter how long it takes. Never give up.
 6. Become part of the whole. Trainees are taught to think and act as a unit because the power of the whole is greater than the sum of the parts. Together they accomplish more than even the most powerful individual acting alone. Becoming a part of something bigger allows us to do more than we could by ourselves. Seals also learn to treat others as they would like to be treated. A pat on the back from another trainee can be all an aspiring Seal needs to keep going instead of giving up. A Navy Seal team has never left a wounded member behind on a mission regardless of injury or risk. We can follow their example by refusing to abandon an emotionally wounded friend no matter how hopeless their condition might seem. 
7. Pay attention to details. One might wonder why Seal trainees must keep their quarters spotless and dirt-free at all times. One answer is that “the devil is in the details.” On missions, the smallest irregularity can signal imminent attack. Most of us notice and deal with the big stuff; it’s the little stuff that can really do us in. Paying attention to what’s around us can supply information that allows us to head off big trouble. It’s also said that “God is in the details.” Taking the time to notice the little things can bring blessings and opportunities we might otherwise miss.
 8. Be prepared. Navy Seals plan for every contingency and routinely confront the unknown. During underwater training an instructor might purposely disconnect a trainee’s air hose to see how he reacts. Instead of panicking, the man learns to calmly reconnect the hose and proceed with the mission. Seals learn to visualize challenges before they occur and to see themselves carrying out a desired action. Visualizing scenarios in which we want to behave differently is a form of practice that can actually help us to change our behavior and improve our performance.
9. Learn to think on your feet. Even the best laid plans can fall apart. What then? Seals have to act quickly. The Extreme Fitness portion of their training gives them an edge in any situation involving physical strength and agility, but sometimes the challenge is mental. A decision must be made immediately. Seals have to do the right thing to the best of their ability without getting stopped. How often do we allow ourselves to be paralyzed by a surprise only to have it overcome us? Taking decisive action when confrontations occur is better than becoming a victim by taking no action at all.
10. Follow instructions. It’s imperative to the success of any mission that all team members pay close attention to orders. Instructors have been known to omit a portion of orders while briefing exhausted men just to see who’s paying attention. Seals can’t afford to miss anything or an entire operation could fall apart. Do we create problems for ourselves and others by not paying attention to what we’re supposed to do? Can we avoid errors by following the direction of those who have our best interests at heart? While it’s tempting to skip ahead in our enthusiasm to get the job done, instructions from reliable sources are there to help us succeed and save us from harm or injury.
While we may not want to be superheroes, we can all be more than we are. Why not challenge yourself to climb higher? Practice the lessons of the Navy Seals to encourage your own untapped potential. You might be amazed to discover superpowers you didn’t know you had.

Temple

We, unaccustomed to courage
exiles from delight
live coiled in shells of loneliness
until love leaves its high holy temple
and comes into our sight
to liberate us into life.

We are weaned from our timidity
In the flush of love's light
we dare be brave
And suddenly we see
that love costs all we are
and will ever be.
Yet it is only love
which sets us free.